Real helps you reconnect to yourself in a world of likes and lies.
Join real ones from around the world — just like you — shifting their relationship with social media to live with more meaning, connection and aliveness, everyday.
Who are you beneath the filter?
Real blends cutting-edge psychology and neuroscience to explain how social media challenges and disrupts your identity — and how you can reclaim it.
Author Alexis Zahner is a business psychology expert, podcast host and self-confessed tech addict who has spent 15 years inside the very platforms she writes about. Drawing on her own messy, honest journey back to herself, Alexis doesn't lecture. She gives you a practical framework for understanding your online habits and rebuilding a relationship with social media that works for you.
In Real, you’ll:
Discover how dopamine loops and algorithms shape your behaviour and learn how you can interrupt the cycle
Understand how your online identity fragments over time and how to reconnect with your whole self
Set personalised digital boundaries that protect your mental health and wellbeing without cutting you off from the world
Navigate parasocial relationships, comparison culture and illusions of credibility with confidence
Build rituals anchored to your real self, creating lasting change that goes far deeper than a detox
Complete with journaling prompts, self-assessments and reflection exercises, Real is as practical as it is illuminating. For anyone tired of living in the likes, suggested posts, sponsored ads and curated highlights, this book will change how you see your feed.
Most importantly, it will change how you see the real you.
Pre-order Real now and unlock exclusive bonuses!
Pre-order Real before launch and unlock exclusive access to bonus content, invitation-only book launch events, and live sessions — for you or your organisation.
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Schools and Universities
Your students are growing up inside the world's largest psychological experiment— and nobody asked their permission.
Your students will leave the session with:
- A clear understanding of how social media platforms are designed to capture and fragment attention — and what that costs them cognitively and emotionally
- The psychological vocabulary to understand identity formation in a digital world: social comparison, parasocial relationships, the performance self, and contextual authenticity
- Practical, evidence-based tools to audit and recalibrate their relationship with social media — without the shame spiral
- A reframe: from passive consumers of an algorithm's output to intentional architects of their own attention and identity
- Permission to be complicated, contradictory, and real — in a world that rewards performance over presence.
Keynote speaking and book-related events
The book that fuses lived millennial wit with cutting-edge psychology —now available as a keynote, panel, or in-conversation event.
Your audience will take away:
- A genuinely original take on one of the defining cultural conversations of our time — written and delivered by an industry insider, not an outside critic
- A blend of sharp satire and rigorous psychology that makes complex research feel personal, funny, and immediately useful
- New vocabulary for naming the strange, often unspoken experience of living a curated life: the Genuine Fake Paradox, the performance self, context collapse
- Practical, evidence-based tools for navigating identity, attention, and authenticity in a digital-first world
- A genuinely entertaining hour — Alexis is a broadcaster and journalist who knows how to hold a room
Companies and teams
The world isn’t slowing down - in fact, technology is speeding it up, faster than ever. Support your team to manage their stress, focus and wellbeing effectively.
Your people will leave the session with:
- A clear understanding of how digital tools and platforms are designed to fragment attention — and what that costs cognitively, emotionally, and in lost productivity
- The psychological vocabulary to name what's driving their digital stress, a shared language for teams and leaders to talk openly about digital boundaries, burnout, and sustainable ways of working
- Practical, evidence-based tools to audit and recalibrate their relationship with technology at work — without empty 'just unplug' advice
- A reframe: from reactive, depleted responders to intentional architects of their own attention and energy.
Alexis Zahner is a millennial author, thought leader, and unapologetic technology addict whose voice bridges lived experience with cutting-edge research.
With over 15 years of experience inside marketing and business psychology, she's built campaigns using the very platforms she's addicted to – she knows this technology, inside and out.
Alexis’s live sessions draw directly from Real’s manuscript research, and are grounded in peer-reviewed psychology, sociology, and neuroscience.
Pre-order now and get exclusive access to live sessions and keynote addresses, bundled with books — perfect for conferences, universities, schools and workplaces.
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